The pressures of modern living can leave a busy couple with little time left for creative romantic expression. But psychologists maintain that successful, happy relationships rely on a degree of romance which is just as important ten years in as it was on the first date. If you’re too busy to focus on re-igniting love’s flame – try these quick tips and watch it glow:Candlelit dinners are the staple of romance. Seeing your spouse’s face by candlelight can add a depth of mystery that you may not have seen there in a long time. The vision can remind you of what you saw in him or her that made you want to marry in the first place.
2. Date night: make it a regular event
A quiet, unfamiliar place with luscious food and drink will help you to relax and start a conversation you may not have had for a while. Your relationship probably relies on a practical daily exchange of information so try to discuss philosophical ideas such as books, art, your dreams and ambitions. If you can, make this a regular date.
3. Take long, leisurely walks
Walking together while holding hands can do a lot to increase the level of intimacy in your relationship. The two of you do not have to talk. You can simply enjoy each other’s presence and the fact that you are moving in step. Try a walk at sunset or on a Sunday along the beach.
4. Road trip to romance
Getting away from home and leaving your familiar surrounds and responsibilities will do wonders for your sense of self. It awakens a sense of adventure in a couple which, in turn, heightens the level of intimacy. Make it a point to get away from home at least once a year (without children).
5. Give gifts
Everyone likes gifts and there’s no need to wait for a special occasion to give one. Take time to remember who your partner is and what it is they like. Buy a small gift, wrap it and present it as a surprise. Your partner will feel valued and cherished again.
6. Body massage
After a particularly difficult week offer your partner a candle-lit full body massage with scented oils. Taking some quiet time alone to unselfishly give your partner pleasure will cause you both to remember how special your bond is.
7.Take a romantic bath for two
Wait for a particularly chilly evening (after the kids are in bed!) then suggest a warm and frothy bubble bath complete with a bottle of wine. Take time to relax and enjoy the moment, give your love a foot massage or use the time to discuss any points of tension in your relationship.
8. Write poetry
Write your love a poem that describes how you feel about them; be as detailed as possible. If you think you can’t, or feel too shy, make an effort to read as many love poems as you can and choose one that you feel best fits the way you feel about your love. Write it in a card and leave it under his/her pillow.
9. Light the flame
Visit a cosy bar or restaurant with an open fire and visit off peak. You’ll enjoy the stillness and the sound of the fire as it crackles and spits. Add your favourite drinks and finger food and cuddle. Remember how good it feels to be in love.
10. Champagne picnic
Grab a picnic blanket, a bottle of bubbles (or beer if that’s what your love prefers!) and find a gorgeous spot away from the hustle and bustle of modern life. Spend an afternoon or evening with nothing to do but relax and talk. Check in on your partner’s needs, hopes and desires and ensure they know yours. Kiss.
Sourced from www.ninemsn.au
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